How to Text Message Someone You Like
Knowing how to text message someone you like, or more to the point, knowing what to say and how to say it, is a skill that can serve you very well in the field of courtship. Although context is crucial, here are some broad tips on what not to do, and what to do, when it comes to text flirting.
1- Get her number. Yup, unfortunately the first part of this process is also the hardest! Unfortunately you need to have at the very least introduced yourself to this girl before you can start texting her, otherwise it’s just considered too forward, or even weird, and it will not be received well. Have a friend who knows her introduce you. Be patient, over the next couple of weeks, be sure to stop and talk to her whenever you see her. Acting confidently is just that- Acting! Whether you are naturally confident or not isn’t the most important issue, what is important however, is appearing confident. If you are having to ‘act’ however, be sure not to be over the top as this will put off many people. ‘Quietly confident’ is a nice balance- smile, hold eye contact, move assertively, do not second guess what you say as you say it, but take time over your words, this will naturally hold their attention. Things will only ever be as uncomfortable as you make it! Once you are on smiling and small talk stage with her, confidently ask for her number. If she gives it to you, it will mean she is happy to text you. Do not get it from her friend. Although this might seem like an easy shortcut to take, it will most likely not result in as positive a result.
2- Once you get her number, don’t text straight away! Give it a couple of days and hopefully she’ll be wondering whether you’re going to message her or not. Don’t wait too long however as she’ll loose interest. There is a balance in playing hard to get.
3- Unless your planning on being deliberately mysterious, be sure to very briefly re-introduce yourself when you first text. Pick a time to text her when you know she’s not going to be at school/at work. Be casual, be fun, don’t write an essay, but most importantly, don’t confess your love for her! Perhaps mention that you saw her today and really liked her dress. A text such as this should be nonchalant in passing- don’t be creepy! Something light and fun is good. Rather than writing a question outright, try and make an unobtrusive statement that may encourage a response.
4- Early texting should be small talk, although keep it interesting. People tend only to small talk about the weather when social etiquette obliges them to fill a silence with speech. Avoid mundane topics, but still feel free to ask her how her day went as this will often open a whole can of worms of conversation.
5- Exit a conversation before it starts to dry up. This way you will seem like you’re not trying to force conversation and are fairly relaxed about the whole situation.
6- Don’t be the first to start off a text conversation every time. Doing it the first couple of times is O.K, but after that, be sure to give her some space. When you do start texting a new conversation, the introduction should always be asking them what they’re up to. This will either give you something to talk about, or let you know that they’re busy and that you’re not really going to be giving you their full attention in conversation.
Text messages can very often be misread. Re-read everything before you send a text.
Do not text when horny! This is the quickest way to burn bridges!
A text to invite her over to your house at night to watch a film etc may be considered as a booty call, so be prepared to receive a negative response.