How to Tell When a Girl is Interested in You
This is a bit of a toughy! When considering the range of maturity and character profiles of the female populous and the corresponding approaches that ladies will adopt in order to convey their lusting, providing an over-riding guide to judging a specific lady’s level of interest is no mean feat. Although I consider it impossible to provide a fool proof check list, it is possible to hone down to base criteria from which you can deduce her interest in you with a reasonable level of confidence.
1- When talking in absolutes, it is easier to judge someone’s attraction to you the further away emotionally you are from them. How well do you know your crush? Have you met before? Are you already friends? Is she a friend of a friend? Once you’re emotionally driven towards this person, it is much harder to see through the smoke of feeling to deduce real logic. Your familiarity with your crush will also affect their familiarity with you making them more inclined to be tactile (‘touchy feely’) but on a purely platonic (friend) basis. This can make judging their angle of interest in you very difficult. It is best to view this issue of familiarity in the wider sense of their actions with other peers: If you don’t know the lady very feel yet they she is very tactile and forward with you, is she also tactile with other people? If not, perhaps her feelings towards you are more than just platonic, if so perhaps she’s just naturally flirty
2- Does she seek your attention? Again this issue is best viewed in context with her approach to your peers. Does she also seek attention from other men? If so, perhaps she simply has a subconscious need for male attention. If she does seek other male attention yet it is obvious that she is trying to catch your attention whilst she does so, it would suggest that she may be trying to trigger jealousy and so perhaps she actually has feelings towards you?
3- What does her body language say? Having one’s body naturally face you suggests involvement with you at a subconscious level. This is a good sign! If they have a closed posture or not (closed being folded arms for example) is a little harder to gain insight from. A closed posture would usually suggest ‘keep away’, but this may simply be due to the lady being nervous or less confident. This is where an appreciation of her character is useful. If she is clearly confident yet has a closed posture with you, chances are that she is not interested (again, this is only a rough guide, there could be other variables involved!).
4- Much can be deduced from a person’s eye contact with you. What can be even more insightful however, is what are they doing with the rest of their body whilst holding this eye contact? Watch her other mannerisms; is she playing with her hair? What are her hands doing? Is her posture closed or open? Whilst holding eye contact, watch beyond it for true insight into subconscious flirtatious behaviour.
5- Even the most shy of women will leave subtle hints for you. Keep your eyes peeled for these breadcrumbs but do not fabricate them to fluff your ego! If you think she may be dropping you a hint, try and see this ‘hint’ in the context that it was intended before deducing whether it was a real hint or not.
Although communication is key to relationships, some things are best left unspoken i.e. the mystery and allure of flirting with someone should not be ruined by raising the issue verbally.
Being friends with someone may make you less inclined to act on feelings that you have towards them (for fear of ‘losing a friend’) and will certainly cloud your judgement on whether they like you back. I honestly feel that it is better to act on your feeling if unsure. If you act but they do not reciprocate these romantic feelings towards you, a good friend will always get over this in comparatively little time and your friendship will be much less damaged than what it would have been if you had simply swept all of these feelings under the carpet.