How to Stay Positive when You Know Your Life Sucks
Knowing how to stay positive when you know your life sucks can help you climb out of the hole that you’ve found yourself in. Unfortunately, life is very rarely fair, but the sooner you can stand up tall and take it on the chin rather than self-loathing, the sooner you can begin to turn things around.
1- Appreciate why you feel the way you do. Take time and put effort into understanding why you feel the way you do? Was there a certain incident that led to this moment? Do you find it difficult interacting with others? Are you struggling financially? Are you lonely? Are you short tempered or unpleasant to be around? Have you recently lost a loved one? If you can’t quite put your finger on it, ask a friend or someone who cares about you for their opinion on why they think you feel the way you do (there will always be someone who will give you some honest feedback if you ask them in an emotionally uncharged way). Once you understand why you are in the situation that you are in, you can begin on the long road to fixing, or at least mitigating, the issue.
2- Put things into perspective. Is it really that big a deal in the grand scheme of things? Usually the answer will be no. Sadly, people die, people get ill, people fall out of love, and people hurt other people. If there’s little you can do about it, stop feeling sorry for yourself and be assertive. Make a change.
3- Don’t hate the players, hate the game (and then accept it). Yea people can be unkind, and they may have been unfair to you, but somewhere down the line you need to accept minor fault for your position. People will always need someone to pick on or be unkind to, but there must be a reason why they chose you and not someone else. Have you adopted a certain characteristic that makes you an ‘easy target’? Did a single incident typecast you? The sooner you stop blaming everyone else, the sooner you can address the issue and move on.
4- Get to know yourself. See How to find yourself.
5- Work to your strengths. Now you understand your weaknesses, define what you are good at, or, what you could be good at. Make a conscious effort to address your weaknesses whilst weighting towards your strengths and apply this in your new approach to life.
6- Appreciate the little things. If you’re struggling to see the good things or are having a particularly bad day, write a list of all the good things in life; the things you care about. Remind yourself that these are the things worth fighting for.
7- Exercise! Get up and about and get physical. Exercise is a natural releaser of endorphins, not to mention the positive self-image it will create. Getting into a routine will also provide structure in your life and then drive. The same goes for eating healthily.
8- Still suffering despite honestly giving all of the above a try? Perhaps your problem may be more deep routed? Perhaps you may suffer from chronic depression or be bi-polar? Although you can self-manage these issues, it may be worth seeking medical advice if things are looking bleak.
9- Do not give up! Giving up shows weakness of character. You’re better than that.
Get a pet and care for it. Something as simple as responsibility for something that you care about can put a smile on your face.
What makes you laugh? Indulge it!
Talk about it with a friend. They don’t even need to be that intuitive because even just saying things out load can help you to gain a new perspective.
If you hear a little voice inside your head suggesting that you get off of the couch and to “just do it”, listen and do as you’re told! Even if it’s just to go outside and get a breath of fresh air! Listen to this ‘proactive’ thinker all day every day until he begins to take control and change your life for the better.
If you’re on your last legs and are thinking too deeply about ‘how to do it’, google “suicide hotline” to get a number to call that’s local to you. Even just having someone you don’t know at the end of a phone can really help.