How to Not Care What People Think
Learning how to not care what people think will allow you to openly be yourself and so generally be a happier person. The first important thing to realise here is that it’s not all about you! There are countless others around you for other people to be thinking about (who actually spend about 70% of the time more concerned with themselves), so how much are they really concerned with you or what you’re doing?!
1- Know who you are and what makes you tick. Read How to find yourself before we begin.
2- Break the cycle. Do you think that overly concerning yourself with how you come across is an attractive quality to peers or potential lovers?…. Nope! Confidence is attractive, confidence in yourself. Now think for a moment, which type of person do you tend to judge more: the happy, friendly, confident person, or the quiet, weary, un-confident person? If you’re worried about what people think of you, change your outlook on things, be confident! Exhume confidence. Whether you are naturally confident or not is irrelevant. Acting confidently is just that- acting! Confident people are much more likeable and easy to get on with. Smile, be forward and open with your body language, and take the initiative.
3- Be impulsive. Another great way to break the cycle is to get in the habit of acting before thinking. This may be tough for you, but once you begin to exhibit an “I don’t care what people think” approach to life, this will reflect by actually making people judge you less.
4- Put things into perspective. The time to think is when you have time to yourself. Try and gain a little perspective on the situation; is something or other really a big deal in the grand scheme of things? Chances are that the answer will be no, so simply get over it.
5- Wear it well. Metaphorically speaking, it doesn’t matter what we ‘wear’ as long as we ‘wear it well’. Showing people that you’re uncomfortable in a situation will automatically make them more inclined to judge you, and so acting like it’s no big deal will make it seem like it’s no big deal. Remember that things are only ever as uncomfortable as you make them.
6- Smile. No matter what ridiculously embarrassing thing that you do or say, a smile will always take the edge off of the situation, as will a light hearted approach to life.
If it doubt, just do it, give it a go. You’ll be all the happier for it.
Take baby steps. Rather than trying to change everything all at once, ease into your new ‘role’. It will be better received this way and you will naturally develop more confidence as you go.