How to Deal with a Bad Kisser
Knowing how to deal with a bad kisser can save a potentially perfect romance from spiralling into just another fling. It’s important to remember that there is a degree of ‘it takes two to tango’ here, as some people have just become accustomed to kissing in a different way. Whether you’re simply on different wave lengths and need re-aligning, or whether your partner is genuinely a bad kisser, here are some ideas to help with how to deal with a bad kisser.
1- Don’t just destruct, construct!
Yea you want to fix it, but don’t go at it like a bull in a china shop until you have properly thought it through. Know what works for you, and therefore conversely, what isn’t working for you in this instance. For any criticism that you may have, you need to be able to construct a solution.
2- Give a little.
As previously discussed, your new partner may just be accustomed to kissing in a certain way. You should both meet in the middle with your new, personal kissing style.
3- Evaluate the overriding emotions.
Sometimes people just want to pick certain aspect of their lovers apart as they simply do not feel for them like they should. If this is the case, do the right thing and let them go.
4- Find out what your partner likes.
Perhaps they like don’t kissing the way that they do?! Start by putting the focus on them to evaluate your kissing style. Once they have said what they like and what they’d like to change about you, you’ll be in much less threatening an environment to share the opposite with them. Again, meet in the middle.
5- Experiment together.
Make it fun to establish a new kissing style together. Take the edge off of the situation. Phrase things always in the positive i.e. rather than saying “ I don’t like the way you…”, try “ I love the way you….”.
6- Develop the passion.
There are different ways to kiss dependant on the situation. See ‘how to kiss’ for more ideas here.
7- Have a ‘sit down’
If your partner is really reluctant in trying new things, you need to sit down and talk about it properly. They need to understand that kissing is important to you and that you both need to work to get it right. They may not take this so well, however addressing things early will lead to a much healthier relationship in the long run.
Address the issue early! The longer you leave it the harder it will become, or worse, you’ll slip into their bad habits and won’t even be able to remember what it was like to kiss well!!!